How often do you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation? I'd image that little thing could pop up everyday, but a truly uncomfortable situation isn't quite as common. Last Sunday I was in a uncomfortable situation, nothing bad or embarrassing, it was just a situation I was uncomfortable in. I was meeting a co-worker out at an event. The event was described to me as live jazz music at a martini bar, very chill. I was a bit surprised to find a bouncer at the door, a cover, and tons of people dressed to impress. I wasn't dressed the part, I was alone, and I was really wanting to just go home.
Is it possible that my own thinking caused me to be uncomfortable? Could my thinking caused one bad feeling to the next? I didn't really want to go out alone, I don't like to pay just to go inside a club, I had no idea if I would enjoy myself, or how long I would have to wait for my co-worker to meet me. Did all these thoughts cause me to have a bad attitude and feel uncomfortable?
Being happy is hard work. You constantly have to be on guard against yourself, monitoring your feelings and correcting negative thoughts to be more positive. In my case, I was in the club telling myself over and over again, think good thoughts. I couldn't actually think of any good thoughts, I just knew that me obsessing over being uncomfortable isn't going to do anything to help me get over it nor was it going to make me happy. I can't say that just saying good thoughts over and over again made me happy, but it did help me obsess less over my negative feelings so when my co-worker finally made it, I was able to quickly turn my feelings around and have a great time.
So, I guess this stuff is working. In the past, I would have pouted for a while and hold the situation over my co-worker blaming him for being late which would have just made everyone annoyed. I can't say that it was a huge about of growth, but I defiantly think I've at least sprouted a leaf.
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